The Leak

After The Full Read · a personal field guide

The First-Date Filter

Before you fall for the chemistry, check the architecture.

Some people are wrong for the life you want, however strong the pull. Not bad people — people who want something you can't give up. A short set of questions, built from your Full Read and your own standards, to find that out early: before months of attention make it harder to see.

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  • — your questions, kept for every date
  • — the tell to notice and a question that settles the fact
  • — notes for each date, on your phone
  • — one reading of a date; a field guide as PDF

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How it works

Before, during, after

  1. 01

    Personalize

    Seven short questions about what you won't compromise on. Your Full Read supplies the rest.

  2. 02

    Observe

    Eight or nine questions to bring into an ordinary conversation — never an interview. Each one is built to make the answer leak, with the tell to catch and a cross-check for later in the evening.

  3. 03

    Record

    After the date, note what was said and how. Every field is optional; a question that didn't come up is never held against anyone.

  4. 04

    Interpret

    If you want, one reading of your notes: what clearly conflicts with your standards, what needs a conversation, what one evening cannot tell.

Why the questions don't sound like tests

Ask anyone “do you want children?” and you get the presentable answer. The book's rule: what someone projects is their strategy; what leaks is their hunger. So a question first asks what actually happened — then a plain question settles the fact. Each comes with the tell, what is worth noticing in how they answer, and a cross-check for later in the evening, when they are no longer watching themselves.

In person, if you can

Ask face to face and listen closely: the pause before the answer, the voice, what they do with the question. You can ask some in messages before you meet — but in writing there is time to compose the right answer, and far less leaks. Record how you talked; the reading weighs it.

What you get

Four layers

The Hard No

What you marked non-negotiable. Each one ends with a plain question that settles the fact.

Life Direction

What you marked important — worth knowing early, never an automatic no.

The Structural Mismatch

Questions built from your Full Read — where your own pattern can blind you.

The Chemistry Trap

For you, after the date. The book's Decision Algorithm — the same four questions as in The Fitting Room.

What it is not

Not a personality diagnosis of the other person, not a lie detector, not a score. One evening can show that two people want different lives. It cannot show who someone is — that takes time.

Your questions. Their answers. Your decision.

If it continues

The Fitting Room

Move a date there with one tap — notes and answers come along. Time shows the pattern.

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